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Reduce:

Problematic habits

What these habits are varies from person to person, but common examples include:

  • Mulling
  • Focusing on problems
  • Not taking time for myself
  • Hurrying
  • Blaming myself for a lot
  • Eating junk food
  • Consuming a lot of negative news
  • Putting out fires instead of setting priorities
  • Sleeping through the day
  • Canceling outings and isolating myself

Doing more of:

Desired and working habits

What these habits are varies from person to person but often they are simple. For example:

  • Planned an outing
  • Distracted my thoughts
  • Talked to a good friend
  • Been on my own in peace and quiet
  • Played sports
  • Having dinner with a family member
  • Went to the sauna
  • Walked through nature
  • Listened to music

It is difficult to break out of your vicious stress cycle without help because:

Because of the stress, your brain can no longer remember on its own what it was like to be "upstairs" and what you were doing then. You can no longer just manage to see past the dark clouds.

You want to go back up, but problematic habits keep pulling you back down. Problematic habits may feel good or neutral in the moment, but lead to pain later.

After following 15Minutes4Me.com, you can:

Recognize your problematic habits and do them less and less.

Identify the desired habits that do work for you.

Do and keep doing your desired and working habits more often.

Recognize possible relapses early and thus avoid slipping back into old habits.

15Minutes4Me.com helps you learn all this through progress in Thinking, Feeling and Doing.

15Minutes4Me.com supports you through

  • Daily guided self-reflection ( Thinking )
  • Weekly exercises so you can turn an unpleasant feeling into a pleasant feeling in minutes until your desired habits are ingrained ( Feeling )
  • Daily prompt you to start doing more of the things you will identify as helpful ( Acting )
  • 15Minutes4Me.com offers, if you choose, support in interacting with your chosen support person and/or family physician or other caregiver ( Supportive Environment )

From insight to results

Insight

Are you in the 'green' or the 'red'? And in which areas? Find out how you currently score by completing the free self-test.

Do you want to score better?

Take action and sign up for 15Minutes4Me.com! During the program you will retake the self-test weekly in order to monitor your progress and adjust where necessary.

Action

Daily 15-minute online coaching in which you will learn to find your own solutions to a stress-free life, both professionally and privately. Specifically, you can choose to learn through customized modules including:

  • How to prevent stress at work
  • How to get out of burnout
  • How to prevent relapse
  • How can I improve my contact with my partner, friends and family?
  • How do I experience more peace
  • How can I get my feelings back?
  • How do I increase my quality of life

Result

After following 15Minutes4Me.com you feel happy again. You have also learned how to be more solution-oriented deal with stressful situations. Unexpected circumstances have less negative impact on your mood.

You know what to do to stay "in the green" and implement these desired habits. You become more flexible deal with changes, feel more more resilient and experience fun in activities. You feel more involvement and feel more comfortable at work and at home.

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Participants of 15Minutes4Me.com who came before you

Kathleen describes her recovery and how laughter gradually returned to the dinner table



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Hi, Kathleen.

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Happy to see you here.

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And I'm very grateful that you want

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to share some of your experiences.

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You are a happy mother, a proud mother

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of three children, a happy family, and

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you have a career in international company.

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And as most people in Western society are doing, we are

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rushing because we want to be the best mother and to

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be a good employee and to be a good colleague and

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to be a good manager and to be good in everything.

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And at a certain moment, what I see as a

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medical doctor quite often and what we see with the

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'15Minutes4Me.com' program, a lot of people, they

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hit the borders of what our body can take.

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And for some people, they go and burn out.

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Others get anxiety, others will get

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depressions or other psychosomatic problems.

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In your case, it was mainly burn out.

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So that almost from one day to another, your body

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said, okay, I don't collaborate in the game anymore.

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And I'd like to have your experience.

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What I want to learn from you and also to be able

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to share with people who view is what was helpful to you.

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So what did you learn from that experience?

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And in the second stage, what did

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the program contribute to this help?

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So what in general was helpful to you and how did

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you find a program and how did that contribute to what

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you wanted to change and what you wanted to reach in your life?

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So I think if I understand correctly, Paul, your

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first question is around what did I learn from

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the overall experience, from the burn out itself I guess? Yeah.

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And especially from the experience and what helps because

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of course, it's more useful that people learn about

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what helps than the diagnostic or the medical part.

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Yeah.

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So I think certainly that what I think, which

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is very important, is that you try to prevent

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it, because if you are for the people that

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are going through it, they probably already know.

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For the people that are for the moment,

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experiencing very high stress symptoms, it's not a

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great moment to hit the wall.

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So as you mentioned, you don't see it coming.

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If you hit the wall, it's too late.

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Now, the good news is that you can get out of it.

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I'm kind of a proof of that for myself.

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You can get out of it if you follow the right step.

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I hear all the stories of people who don't do that.

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And I can also share that because I come across

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also people that have had a burnout, and then you

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still see that there's still some remaining issues that they

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are tackling, and then you still wonder, didn't you get

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the right help or what have you missed or what

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was different for me, that I don't seem to have

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these remaining anxiety problems or remaining stress symptoms.

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That's interesting.

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We certainly want to go deeper on that one also here.

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So for me, what I noticed is, okay, you go

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into a burnout and then you're confronted with yourself.

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So I had a lot of medical support, and one

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of the big questions that was asking me is what

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are you going to change in your life?

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That's the question that doctors are the

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people who try to help you. Yeah.

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That's quite tough because at that moment

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in time you're not feeling so great.

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Let's say that you're not in a solution state of mind.

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You don't find that quickly solution.

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So on your own, that's not so easy to go

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through that. Do you mean, like it's probably the most

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important question, but at that time it's almost like too

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early to answer it or too difficult?

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I think it's too difficult

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because you're not feeling okay.

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You don't know exactly what caused it.

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So you first need some relief before you can what

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I hear you say, it's like as if it's a

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process in different stages where in one stage you need

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to relieve the body and in a later stage you

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will need to address that deeper questions.

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Yeah, certainly.

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So there's certainly a resting part in there.

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What really helped me with the online program is

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it starts up quite slowly in the sense that

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it explains you at the start a lot of

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concepts about how your mind works.

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And those were things that

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I actually didn't know before.

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So you mean that what was helpful for you?

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Is this what we call in our technical words

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of psycho education, where we teach in simple, non

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medical words how the brain works and what happens

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when you get into either burnout or depression or

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anxiety so that you have an understanding almost like

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biologically what's happening. Because I think something is going

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wrong with your heart or with another organ.

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You get quite a lot of

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great explanations from your doctors.

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I didn't get a feeling when I had a

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burnout that these type of explanations were given.

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And actually you can consider it's an organ as well.

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And it works in a certain way.

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And the more you understand it, the more

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as well you can work with it. Yeah.

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So the understanding of the biological, let's say the simplified

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explanation of the biological parts of the brain, that was

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very useful to you. It is very useful. Certainly. And then the fact that it

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is daily, I think that is very crucial. Yeah.

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Has that been important to you, the fact

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that you have a kind of daily structure

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or support or something at home?

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I was in the case, I was at home.

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I can imagine when people are not at home

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yet, but still you are struggling to survive, to

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survive your stress into that moment in time.

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It's great to know that you have a 15 minutes

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daily help for yourself or moments of reflection and that

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you don't need to wait for what is it a

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typical one month before you see your doctor again?

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Two weeks or three weeks.

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It's in the evening again that you get

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some information or an exercise to do.

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And that is a little step.Because

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that's interesting what you're saying, because your

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experience like this daily report was important.

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And sometimes people who didn't follow the program,

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they asked me this kind of question like, but

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don't you need this human relationship?

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How can a program be useful?

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Some people say this must be very

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anonymous, although I hear some people who

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experience the program say the opposite.

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How did that relate in comparison

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with someone guiding you live?

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But you have to drive there and

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all the consequences because it's daily.

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But it's a program.

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I'm not saying that one

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can always substitute the others.

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I also use the face to face support.

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But I do see it certainly has a very big compliment.

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And I can also understand for people that are

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not in a situation that I was already if

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I would have known of this before. Yeah.

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More preventive. For more preventive that

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it's probably you don't want to

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go and see whatever psychologist, coach.

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That's what I hear from many people.Because

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you don't feel that you're ill, you don't

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feel that it's the moment to see them.

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Yet there's still taboo around it.

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And in that case, I think it is very easy to

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start off this program and you probably see even quicker benefits

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than in the case when you're already deep in it.

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Yeah, that's what I've heard from other people also.

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But what you are saying is that

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this daily support was very important.

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So the fact that there was every

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day some type of a guidance. Yeah.

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Also because what I also liked is that you start to

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kind of test to see how you are different levels.

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And it shows it very graphically.

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In my case, I think it was very confrontational

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to see that I was not doing great.

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I already knew that consultant with that as well.

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And then actually, you see, because of your

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daily follow up, you see an evolution.

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And I think that is fantastic.

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The fact that you have a kind of feedback from

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yourself to yourself through the program. Then you see actually

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that it's paying off and it's a quite quick evolution.

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I'm not saying you go immediately from red and

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to green and so not what is happening.

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But you see that through the actions that you

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are taking, you see that you are slowly but surely okay.

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How does it feel like you have

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to motivate yourself to do it?

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Was it difficult to of course, you get your

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invitation by email, but you still have to decide

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to take action to keep following the program.

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Was it difficult or was it pretty easy? It's only 15 minutes.

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Yeah.

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So I think when you're at home and 15 minutes

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is certainly not a lot, when you are still working.

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And so I've heard of other people that have followed it

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then even then the 15 minutes is not a lot.

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Do you also get feedbacks of colleagues,

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who follow the program and who

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are still more in the preventive state?

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In the preventive state, yeah. Maybe.

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Do you have some reflections on how because it's

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interesting to hear how you experienced it, but if

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you have feedback from colleagues, how they experienced it

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as a kind of more in an earlier preventive

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stage? How does it work for them?

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I think it's the same.

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The first thing that was interesting for them is to

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realize that they did have a problem and then that

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you can also work on that job because there's so

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many different places you can go to.

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But there's not a lot people don't

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find a lot of trusted places.

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There's quite a lot of people

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that have followed your programs.

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So you do have some evolution over time.

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There's some research that has been done so that builds

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kind of a trust for people to start using it

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because you have to get over that first fear of...

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Was that difficult for you when you were looking on

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the Internet to decide what to find, which program or which

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solution to trust, or was it a difficult search?

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I think for me, I looked at something which

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seemed to be built by someone who has experience

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in the domain and where you see that there

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is a continuous effort on improving the program and

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that also does thorough reflections on the subject itself. So, I think that was for me.

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Of course, there are other solutions available, but still,

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I think you have to do your own market

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research to see if it fits your needs.

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And for me, this was a great and easy

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solution for a reasonable price to sell, because I

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think that is an easy you don't need to

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buy immediately for whatever, six months or so. Yeah.

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You can decide one month, and if later

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you say no, it's enough, it's enough.

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If you want more, you can step in for another month.

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It can be immediately or much later.

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That's what we tried to do to leave choice. Yeah.

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And it's not like this membership where

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you didn't see the small numbers.

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It's not easy to so you can stop it.

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You can also pick it up again if you

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feel that you want to pick it up again.

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So at least you are, because the people that

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are using it, I would say, are in quite

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a fragile situation and you don't have the feeling

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that somebody is taking advantage of you.

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So you can stop it if you want to stop it.

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You can start if you want it. It is an open game. Exactly. That's good.

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Now you were telling me about that

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daily structure was helpful to you.

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What else?

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Or the information in the beginning, what more was helpful

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in the program and how did it help you?

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How did it impact you?

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What I really liked and which was not

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even, I think, marketed as much when I

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decided to use it was the body system. Yeah.

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The feedback. The feedback from bodies from you

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select who are the people around you that

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are going to support you through your process.

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And it actually helped them to know how to support me.

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So the fact that we teach in small

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videos, the family members, YouTube, your friends who

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are your buddies, that they got some more

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instruction on how to be helpful to you. Yeah.

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And you see, I actually didn't know that

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you received videos, but it did help.

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It was interesting.

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I didn't know.

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But I could see a change in the

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way that they were interacting with me. With you.

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Yeah, that's interesting because we try in the program because

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we want to see how can we help people and

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use their natural system and natural resources and family and

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friends are natural resource, and that's the goal.

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But it's pleasant to hear that that's

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really the way you experience it also.

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Yeah, because it also, I think, clarified a lot

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to them of what is going on with you,

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which is not something that you can always explain.

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It's not they are going with you

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to a doctor's appointment or whatever.

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So in that sense, I truly felt a change

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in their interactions with their way of supporting you.

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That's interesting. That's very nice.

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I remember that he once mentioned to

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me the self reflection aspects, that it

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helped you look different at yourself.

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Could you tell something about how that works for you?

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Yeah, I think in the self reflection, I probably

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didn't mention it now again, because it has become so

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natural for me to do this now.

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So I think the most important part of

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my 15 minutes is that it's about learning

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new behaviors that you then incorporate in your

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DNA and that you then continue to use.

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So the idea is not that you're going

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to use this and then forget about it.

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The idea is that you're going to change the way that

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you are. So self reflection can be a lot of things.

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One of the things that I think that I realized

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for myself that learning to say no in every type

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of circumstance is not an easy thing to do.

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So through the program, you learned to put

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more boundaries and say no to people.

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It's already discovering that this is I think the

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first step in the program is always observing certain

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behavior, which was interesting for me as well, because

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we have the idea that immediately we need to

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change something, which is quite difficult actually.

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But if you already start by

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observing behavior that you have.

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Yeah, it goes slower.

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It goes slower, and it's much more mindful,

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and you're a little bit milder on yourself.

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So certain behaviors, and then you

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decide for yourself that you actually have

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choices of shooting for another behavior.

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And I think in the first step realizing

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that, okay, I have difficulties to say no.

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Then you observe that for some time, and

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then you can realize, okay, what's another type

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of behavior that I can have?

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That's interesting.

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You always make me smile.

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Because when you are telling this about saying

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no, I was thinking did we include this

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as a topic in the program?

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And I don't even remember.

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So I would assume that this was

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some self discovery that you did by

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answering the questions and observing yourself.

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Because it's not something that we certainly

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not in the version that you were

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attending, because since then it has evolved.

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But in the version that you are attending, we

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never said that saying no is an important thing.

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So it seems that it's something that you are subconsciously...

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There are a couple of questions every day.

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I don't remember them by heart, which trigger yourself

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reflection and then you can listen for yourself, certain

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behaviors or things that are getting into your way.

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And I think this is an example of something that really...

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Because do you remember how long is it to go?

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Is it more than a year or more years?

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It's actually almost certainly two

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and a half years ago.

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That the program. It's interesting.

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I forgot that it was already so long

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ago because then you have a better overview

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what it makes on the long term.

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Because sometimes people say, yeah, I'm going to do.

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Sometimes people by mistakes, write me an email

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and say your course or your Elearning.

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But I did never design it as an Elearning

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because you are familiar in companies with Elearning.

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What's the difference between

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this program and Elearning?

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Because some people think because there's

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also some videos in the program.

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So some people think it's something like

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Elearning, but it's different, I guess. Yeah.

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Because Elearning is really a training you would train

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someone on, I don't know, stress management only.

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I'm not saying that there's no aspects in there which I

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would rather consider as mentoring, someone who has a lot of

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more experience in it, who is sharing techniques on how you

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can better manage your stress, how it would be easier for

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you to get your mind to slow down.

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There's a couple of techniques that I can think of.

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What is the big difference is that I

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would rather call it some kind of coaching

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mode because it's self coaching mode.

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It's you in person behind the camera.

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It becomes quite personal in that way.

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And through the questions, you trigger people to reflect

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and bring them to their not you're the expert.

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But I think there's solution part of their

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brain that activates the solution focused thinking areas

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in the brain.Because otherwise I mean people that are

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in this phase are in their reptile brain

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and they don't find solutions anymore.

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So that's why it's stronger, I think.

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I would certainly not consider it as an Elearning.

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I wanted to hear what was your opinion?

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Because sometimes people are confused. Because of course most

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of the things on the market are Elearning. Yeah.

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And it's quite difficult to explain to people what's

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the difference because you learn some techniques, but it's

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not sure that you will integrate them in your

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daily life and in all the different contexts that

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you are going to work and professional.

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And I seem to have impression that you could

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integrate quite a lot of those things as well

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in your private life as in your business life.

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Because I remember that you once told me because

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we did this interview in Dutch language before.

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And I remember that in the Dutch interview you told

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me something that there were things that your daughter or

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one of your children were taking over, all those things

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that you indirectly were learning in the program.

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And then at a certain moment, I don't know,

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there was an incident that on the table.

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Your daughter at certain moment said, let's

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do this or that. Several things that

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we learned or that we adapted.

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I think one of the things that we did

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is sometimes we ask each other to ask nice

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stories about the day of people determining their day.

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So it brings it back to the positive part.

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So otherwise you always focus on the problems.

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That's something you still keep as a ritual.

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I'm not saying that we're doing that every day,

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but at regular points in time, we ask them

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and the children, it's funny because they even start

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a conversation themselves, and they will also notice when

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somebody is not replying to the question.

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So being very mindful towards children, if

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my husband is, for example, not answering,

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they will ask very nice questions.

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And how is your data?

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You haven't said anything, so it's quite helpful.

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So you can translate actually.

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And I think that is the challenge for each one of us.

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You follow the program and it's not like

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sets of rules that you need to follow.

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You can then see how it works for

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you and then adapt it to your situation.

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So these things that your children, for instance,

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were learning indirectly, was there some conscious effort

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that you said, oh, I want to share,

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or did that happen spontaneously?

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How does that work?

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I think to me it happened at the start very

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spontaneously because to be honest, my day didn't consist of

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a lot than the things that I was learning there.

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So you want to share of what is

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going on and what you are learning.

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And it brings you back in a

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nice way because before you're ill, your

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children don't understand what is going on.

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And I think then they saw a shift as

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well with me learning new things, bringing it to

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them and creating an interest on their side.

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And then I think later then you reflect

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back on what I learned from it.

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And you also realize, well, if you want to prevent

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your kids go through this, which you certainly want to

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do, then there's certain things you want to teach them.

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And then it's about how to go about

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it and how to explain the concepts and

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in a way that children also understand and

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they understand much more than we usually think. Yeah.

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That's amazing.

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In the beginning because the program

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is not designed for children.

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And one day there was a father of a 13 year old.

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They asked me, can my son follow your program?

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And I said, I'm sorry, I really don't know.

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But if he wants to try and he needs more

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help, I will step in and maybe you can help.

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And actually, afterwards I heard that this was probably

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pretty much your 13 year old kid, but it

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seemed to have been working, and I even had

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recently I met someone where mother and daughter were

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both two children, although it's more made in a

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language for adults, but indirectly, it seems that it

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affects sometimes other members in the family.

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Okay.

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So there was the daily aspect of

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self reflection, and then after that, you

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jumped into your normal business life.

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And so now that you look back two years and

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a half later, other things that you want to add

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or to make the picture more complete, or do you

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think that you have mentioned the most important things?

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I think what I did realize, coming back to

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work and then coming into contact with other people

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that went through burnout or depression or had very

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high stress symptoms, that there is a wide variety

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in how people are helped and what information they

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have and what they know about it. Yeah.

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And it does seem to have a big

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impact on the success rate of view of

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feeling good and being very effective, efficient.

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What do you mean with wide variety?

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I'm not sure if I understand that.

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Well, there are big differences.

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So you have people who recover well because in

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your company you can compare with one of the

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highest burnout ratios in our company, in our industry.

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So there's quite a lot of

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people that I can connect with.

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And then you see differences in you have people

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that are absent for a very long time. Yes.

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Sometimes two, three years that people are absent.

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That makes me feel sad because most

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of those cases could have been prevented.

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And as a medical doctor, that hurts. It hurts a lot.

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And also it hurts me to see that when they come

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back that they are not always fully recovered and they have

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such a high risk to fall again, that's interesting because it's

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maybe not about the program as much, but I have a

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vision, but I would like to hear your vision on it.

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If you now after this experience, you see a

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person that you say this person has recovered well

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and has finished the process in the right way,

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and this person is going to have a relapse.

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Do you have an idea what makes you

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predict the difference, how you can see the

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difference between both groups of people?

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Because I see that a lot.

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I'm not trained as you are, but you do see

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a lot, even in just meeting the people and talking

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with them in the way they interact with others and

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the way that they put a lot of limitations on

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themselves, the ones who are going to relapse for me.

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So it's like they are overprotective always putting strong boundaries

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on what is possible and what's not possible, talking a

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lot about their burnout, saying that they need to do

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a lot to prevent a new burnout.

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So they're already talking it's happening

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or they want to convince others. Yeah.

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Or want to convince others and they need to be put

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in very protected jobs with not a lot of stress.

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And to be honest, that's what I always say,

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like, okay, where are those jobs without stress?

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And how do you define stress?

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Because I think even a librarian can have stress.

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So where are you going to end up if

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you're going to put these limitations onto yourself?

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So for me, there is still a lot of

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work for these people to do to work on.

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How do I see stress?

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How do I work with stress?

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And it's unfortunate to see that they didn't get

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these lines throughout the period that they were ill.

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Now I don't see it from the negative side because

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I also know that there are options to solve this.

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I really hope that these people find a

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way to create support for their specific situation.

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But it's unfortunate to see but it reminds me,

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a colleague of mine who is also in burnout

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and stress management medical doctor also, he calls that

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some of those people, that they have the missionary

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syndrome, like if they're on a mission and they

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want either to convert others to the way they

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are cured and then the other ones were overprotective.

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And I have the impression that is quite often and

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that's what we try to avoid with a program.

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Many ways of helping are normative.

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And they say how the end result

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should be and what someone should reach.

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And by putting norms, I have the impression that they

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stay within the problem because if you enter a burnout

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quite often, it's because you up to perfectionist or you

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want to do too much and so on.

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And if there's not this spontaneous self reflection that

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we try to facilitate partially in the program, then

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you are not correcting yourself to where you want

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to be deeply, but you are trying to adapt

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to a norm, just like in the traditional medical

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medicine where the doctor makes a medical prescription.

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And if you have a cancer, you have to

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hope that your doctor makes that medical prescription because

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there is a probably the best solution.

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And if you need antibiotics, it's probably best

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that the doctor prescribes the right antibiotic.

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But in stress related issues, if you don't find the way

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you want to be yourself and you cannot align who you

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are with who you want to be, then you will probably

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repeat the same mistakes and quite often it makes me suffer

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that so many people get in the hands of people who

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have good intentions in coaching others.

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The most risks I see quite often if they have

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been coached by ex burnout patients or people who have

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had the burnout but did not recover themselves and then

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start a coaching practice, I see that quite often.

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For instance, if I look at you now here in the

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interview, it's like you are grounded in your body and yourself

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and those people who did not yet finish the process.

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You see there is some tension,

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there is some cautiousness in that.

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That's interesting.

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Okay.

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Any other things you wanted to share?

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No, I think that's it then I thank you a lot.

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I'm very happy that you want to

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share your experience with some people who

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want to know more about this issues. Thanks a lot. Okay.

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You're welcome.

Participants' answers to the question, "Why would you recommend 15Minutes4Me.com to your friends, family, colleagues?

Why doctors recommend 15Minutes4Me.com to their patients



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Hello, I'm Philip Mast.

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I'm urologist in Belgium and I had the

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opportunity to test myself the '15Minutes4Me.com'

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program, which was very helpful in my personal view

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and in my personal experience to get out of

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negativism and get positive again.

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It was very important for me.

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It broadened my horizon.

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It put me back on the rails

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and was a very, very good experience.

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It helped me in contact with my patients.

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It helped me also in my daily practice and with the

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patients, with my employees and also in my private life.

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It helped me to get positive thoughts, to

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get a new or a better feeling.

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And it was necessary to do it every day.

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And it helped because it was also

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very easy to do at home.

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It has a lot threshold and it gives excellent

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results if you persist and do it every day.

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You told me that you have several patients that you refer

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to the program, and you told me some concrete samples of

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what people told you how it affected their lives.

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Can you expand on that?

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Well, the negativism got away.

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They were thinking differently, and they were forced

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by the program to think positive and positively.

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And this has a great impact, they told me, on

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their life because they got out of the shell again

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and they were able to put some context.

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They have a positive self esteem again, and

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it was very important for these people.

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They told me also that you have to go on

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with it for quite a time, and afterwards it gets

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automatically positive thinking another way to view things.

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And if it gets worse because you don't do it

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for a while, you can put it back on and

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go again and have a good effect of the program. Yeah.

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So you mean that if someone stops a little bit

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too early and they have a beginning of a relapse

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that they can take on take on again and that

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they will go on the rails back very quickly again.

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Then you told me one other example.

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You told about someone of your patients that

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you did not only see psychological effects, but

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that even physiological energy went up quite shortly

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after they started the program. Right.

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Because I saw them while having running, and

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she looked very bad at the first time.

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And then I expected her to say that she had to go

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to the program '15mins4me.com', and she did it.

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And the weeks afterwards, she looked very much better

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and told me afterwards that it was very helpful

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to get her in the positive thinking again, and

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physiologically and physically even she was better.

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Yeah.

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So you see like a kind of double impact,

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because on one side, the program works on the

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brain patterns and the thoughts, but indirectly it has

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a kind of physiological effect on the brain.

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I think the brain works better.

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It has more power to do with

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the other things than thinking negatively.

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That was my experience too when I was getting on

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the computer to do it that for myself the negative

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ideas went away and the positive thinking gives you more

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possibilities of having your brain work better and do things

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that you need every day working, running, to do some physical

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things have envy to do these things and not got

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back in your shell.

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If you look at your patients and you would

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compare doing this daily automatic exercise with this program

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compared to going to a psychotherapist, what are the

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differences, what's more useful when according to well I

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think that the low threshold of these possibilities with

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'15minutes4me.com' is an amazing great thing

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because otherwise you go once in a week once

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in a month to a psychologist or a psychiatrist

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and afterwards you don't have follow up here you

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give your own follow up every day and that's

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helps in getting these positive effects.Okay, great.Thanks.


Dr. Mast followed 15Minutes4Me.com himself and has since recommended the program to his patients as well

Accessible

Online recovery program 15Minutes4Me.com is deliberately made low-threshold to make professional recovery help accessible to everyone.
Four threshold lowering factors:

  • Anonymous to follow. No need to tell anyone in advance about your scores and intention to follow program.
  • No need to make an appointment.
  • Online from home at your convenience.
  • Without conversation and therefore not necessary to tell about (painful) past or present
  • Optional you can choose a friend or family member to support you. We help your chosen friend or family member to understand you better and support you more effectively.
  • Optional: including a monthly report to easily discuss your progress with your GP or company doctor.

Short and long term results

21 days later...

Tension

Anxiety

Depression

  • Average stress reduction of 70% after 49 days and symptom-free after 21 days based on research with more than 10,000 participants.
  • Proven permanent improvement6 years after treatment
  • Including relapse prevention module
  • Effective for all stress-related complaints and causes thanks to the solution-focused method and customized program
  • More than 16,000 participants worldwide

About the doctor behind 15Minutes4Me.com: Dr. Paul Koeck

Dr. Paul koeck first developed the online recovery program 15Minutes4Me.com in order to be able to help people get rid of their stress symptoms effectively and sustainably in a low-threshold manner. He chose the form of an online program to realize his dream: to effectively help millions of people worldwide in an accessible way.Scientific research based on more than 5,000 participants has proven the effectiveness of the program. The program is not only effective, but fast: drastic stress reduction from "high" to "normal" levels in 21 days. The results are also long-lasting: follow-up studies 5 years later show lasting improvement.Dr. Paul Koeck and his team have also developed 15Minutes4Me.com Pro, an expanded version of 15Minutes4Me.com for organizations. With this, organizations can effectively support their employees and even more people can be reached and helped faster in accessible ways.
Paul has completed several university and post-graduate courses including courses on human body and mind (medicine and sports medicine), life aspects (philosophy and management) and on various methods within psychotherapy (including solution-focused therapy, systems coaching and hypnotherapy).To keep abreast of the latest insights, he has also attended many conferences worldwide in the field of therapy and stress management. He has also often given presentations, workshops and live demonstrations himself, including on his own developed method Hypnotic scaling. In this way he has gotten to know many of the masters in the field of psychotherapy.For the development of 15Minutes4Me.com, he therefore sparred with these experts to come up with the most effective program possible that can be followed from home. Of course, for this he also used his own knowledge from training courses and his extensive experience as a psychotherapist in his own practice and as a coach in business.
Paul has many years of work experience as a psychotherapist of patients in his own practice. Over time, he became intrigued by how people and systems can break the vicious cycle of negative stress and inefficiency. After his studies, he founded the Center for Stress Counseling and became known as Belgium's stress specialist.Over time, Paul grew to realize that effective therapeutic strategies could also be successfully applied in business. He founded the company COACHTEAM and also developed his own model based on combined insights from medicine, management, philosophy and psychology. This model is now taught at several universities.Currently, Paul works primarily as a psychotherapist and as CEO and author of 15Minutes4Me.com
Paul was born and raised in Antwerp, Belgium. He has traveled extensively for his work to speak at scientific conferences and gain knowledge from the best specialists in the field. He has also spent periods living abroad for the rollout of 15Minutes4Me.com in other countries and languages. Paul works fluently in Dutch, English, French, Spanish and German, and has notions of Italian, Portuguese, Russian, Esperanto and Latin, among others. Between his scholarly travels, he directs his activities from his hometown, Antwerp in Belgium.

Dr. Paul Koecks TEDx presentation on 15Minutes4Me.com



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Hello
whom of you has never had a friend

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who was suffering stress,
anxiety, depression, tension.

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Who of you has never had a moment that you are worried that

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you were forgetting some words,
or worried if your memory

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is still functioning well?

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Because centuries ago

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this only happened when you were 85.

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But recently we discovered in our society that even young

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people I even get emails from schoolchildren who are asking me

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Doctor, am I suffering a burn out?

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And unfortunately it starts at younger
and younger ages.

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And what happens is that when stress, whatever kind of stress

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that happens in our lives is stimulating our adrenaline,

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our cortisol and several other
stress hormones.

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There's a kind of poisoning of the brain,

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and the first organ that's attacked is part of our brain, the hippocampus

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where the concentration and our
memory is situated.

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And because of that, we are getting difficulty in being focused

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on that what we want
on whom we want to be

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and what we want to achieve in life.

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And more and more we start to experience when stress is happening

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negative stress at least, that we
have the feeling like

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we don't have our brain as an organ anymore in order to make

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the right decisions and to live
a happy life.

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It's like some people start to feel the hopelessness and the sadness.

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Some people start to feel anxiety
and tension.

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Others are getting so tired that it's
like they say,

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I'm broken down and I don't know what to do anymore.

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I don't know who I am anymore.

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I'm completely losing myself.

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And this is happening more and more frequently.

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It's happening more and more since the mobile phone, since

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Facebook, since Messenger, since a lot of influences are

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coming to our brain and our brain cannot digest it anymore

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at the speed that we try to live our lives and to try to

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be the persons whom we want to be.

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Now, however there is hope

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because what we see in our survey,
in our results

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analyzing 3,000 patients who have followed the program

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where we are analyzing what works and what doesn't work.

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We have been able now to develop protocols where people

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who are in that situation within three weeks of time.

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So the average patient who follows this type of protocols

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in three weeks of time reaches normal levels of stress, anxiety

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and depresivity again.

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So technically it is possible to decrease the stress in a

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pretty short amount of time in several weeks of time.

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And if we take an anti depressive medication, it also takes

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about three weeks of time and a good self help system takes

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on average three weeks of time for some people more for some

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people, less.

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And what we measured is that the level of life satisfaction

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and happiness can increase with 40% in three weeks of time

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has been measured on 3,000 people.

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Now, what makes that people fail in living these happy lives

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because we are all born to live the lives that we want to live,

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to become the person we want to be.

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We have a kind of innate desire to become the person we want to be.

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And it's like our software goes there.

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And when we see that something makes it impossible for us

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to reach this dream and this goal,
this negative stress

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starts to happen.

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But what makes that some people

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can cope with it, and some others don't.

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Those who cope with it, at least those who fail are those

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who first of all, don't make a decision, that it's a priority

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to manage this in our society where stress is so frequent around us.

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So the first reason why people fail is

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They don't make a decision.

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Maybe they go to the physician, maybe to the psycologist.

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But that doesn't even mean they
took the decision.

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From today on, I'm going to change my life and do something about it.

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The second reason is they don't
have a system

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they don't know how to do it.

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So the second reason why people don't find solutions is

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they don't have a system.

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The third reason is they quite often don't have access to knowledge.

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And you could say, yes there's a lot of it on YouTube,

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but where to start to find what's good knowledge and what's

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not the right knowledge.

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So a lot of people don't succeed because they don't have

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access to the right type of insights and knowledge.

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Fourth reason is that they don't work on it with a system

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on a daily, consistent basis, because whatever you do, if

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you want to make a change in your life,
it requires changing habits,

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because when you are in a depression
or in a state of anxiety

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or in a burnout, it's because you have developed habits

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that are not adapted to a happy life anymore.

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And your challenge is to develop new habits.

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And that's what's starting to fail at certain moments.

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And when I realized that I was wondering with some colleagues,

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What can we do about it?

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Because a lot of people don't go to the physician, a lot

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of people don't go to the psychiatrist, other psychologists.

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And even if they would go, they might be on a waiting list

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for three weeks for five weeks in some countries, even for

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seven months before they get access to the right kind of help.

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And maybe they even will not have the right match with

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the right type of therapies.

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So when I discovered that and when I discovered that a lot

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of people in my medical practice called me and they say,

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No, I've been sent by this doctor.

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I said Oh this is strange because he's already five years retired.

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Yeah, doctor.

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But he gave me your telephone number six years ago, but I

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didn't have the courage to call you.

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So I was thinking, what can we do to make something more

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accessible and easier?

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And at that moment, we discovered that

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with Internet there is a lot of possibilities.

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And we tried to see what can we do to offer a daily solution?

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Because if you don't change your habit on a daily basis,

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if you only go once a week to the psychotherapist or once

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every two weeks and you don't do something every day to train

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the new skills and to reverse even the biological process

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in your brain.

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Because what we have seen that even if some brain cells are

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damaged biologically because of the chronic stress, you can

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reverse most of that by training these brain areas in the right way.

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But then you need a consistent system.

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So what's very important is that science is focusing more

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and more not only on having a nice talk, to give someone

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a nice insight, but to help people to deliver them a system

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where step by step, they can build up
the competence

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to rebuild new habits.

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And that's what we have seen now in our research.

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At this moment, we have like 400000 people who took our free

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test on the internet on the website,
15minutes4me.com

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and about 3,000 of them followed the full program.

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And when we analyze their results, we see that the average

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client on the 3,000 that are in our
sample database, average client

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when they really do it every day,
when they really

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take 15 minutes a day,
and what do they do?

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They do selfreflection asking yourself kind of questions,

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who do I want to be?

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What type of life do I want to have?

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What type of a mother or father do I want to be for my children?

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What type of a professional
do I want to be?

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What type of a friend do I want to be?

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So what type of a person do I want to be?

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And what am I already doing that works in that direction,

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and that's what a good psychotherapist or software can do,

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ask you the right questions so that you start to get insight

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and what's useful for me.

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And the funny thing is when I analyze the first clients who

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did our program, they were giving us solutions.

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I was taking my anti depressive medication and so on.

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So I was a little bit scared because I didn't want to encourage

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medication too much, although it can be useful from time to time.

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But then after a week, I saw that the responses were shifting

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to I did some meditation, and that's already better.

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But it feels something that you have to do in a systematic way.

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And then after some weeks, the type of answers that came were

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I went to the swimming pool with my three year old daughter.

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I went for a walk, I listened to some music.

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I called a friend on the telephone.

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And then we see that what people need is to reconnect with

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the original solutions and resources of normal, happy life

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and when they can reconnect again.

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And that's what the brain makes impossible when you are in

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this negative viscious circle, it becomes almost impossible

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to reconnect the brain to

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That what you already know from before.

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And when you ask people with a systematic approach,

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the right questions on a daily basis.

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At that moment, people will start to find solutions.

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So if you're interested to find out, go to the website

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15minutes4me.com and do the test and have a look.

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Thanks a lot.

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Thank you

  1. Most participants are satisfied and symptom-free in 21 days, i.e. scoring again in the green zone on our test*, 
  2. and on average maintain their results for the following years after ending the program.
  3. A large part of them (about 25%) already after one week because the stress scores decrease rapidly while your life satisfaction increases rapidly, as you can read below.
This is shown by a study on more than 10.000 participants, followed by a lifelong follow-up of the participants, now for more than 6 years. This study was presented at several international medical and psychological scientific conferences. Below more details about their evolution.
The average stress reduction during the follow up of the program is
  • - 27% after 7 days,
  • - 37% after 14 days
  • - 57% after 21 days
  • - 60% after 30 days
  • - 70% after 49 days
The average increase in the satisfaction about themselves and their quality of life:
  • +20% after 7 days
  • +30% after 14 days
  • +40% after 21 days


* For the statisticians: These figures reflect the median
After a few weeks you will notice that
  1. you will be more optimistic and energetic,
  2. you will think more solution-oriented and
  3. you will be able to deal with difficulties differntly.
  4. you will be less tense.
  5. you will be able to relativize the setbacks better, put them into perspective and find new solutions for them.
  6. you will be told by your surroundings that you react differently to certain things.
  7. you will start to live your life as you wish.

This is because
  1. this daily self-help program '15Minutes4Me.com' helps you to help yourself more optimally, because of 30 days of daily mental training.
  2. You learn to reflect in a more solution-focused way because of our solution-focused questions.
  3. You will learn to make better choices in a first stage.
  4. You will then learn to make and implement your own new choices on a daily basis - supported by this program.
  5. you will learn to practice this 'self-choosing' into sustainable healthy habits that lead to a better life!
  6. We will not let you alone in this program until you have learned to live as you wish to live.

You develop a life full of new habits that lead to more joy & satisfaction with less stress or negativity.
The program offers you:
  1. Daily 15 minutes personalized self-help online
  2. New practical exercises every week
  3. Eweekly short simple commands
  4. Weekly charts with your progress
  5. A weekly evaluation with report for your doctor
  6. Auxiliary support of a support figure every week, if you like : family, partner, friend
  1. Subscribe now with this form
  2. Pay Online via payment methods such as PayPal, credit card, Ideal, Bankcontact, Maestro, Mastercard, Visa, Carte Bleu. (Offline payment is impossible)
  3. Start immediately by logging in via the link in the email you will receive, together with your login and password. 
  4. First, allow our email address "noreply@m.15Minutes4Me.com" in your spam filter as a 'safe sender'. Our emails will be sent from this address.
  5. Follow the program daily for 15 minutes until you feel good and satisfied
A few examples
  • A participant who followed the program a few years ago during her burnout told me that thanks to the self-reflection during this program she had come to the decision to start her own business.
  • A mother of three suffered burnout during an intensely busy period in her career as a manager and told me in a video interview how the self-help program helped her.
  • A journalist from Psyche and Brain followed this program for a month to write about it, and was surprised when his girlfriend pointed out after 2 weeks that she had never seen him so calm even though he had 8 important deadlines ahead of him at that time.
  • In his bestseller 'Borderline times', Prof. Drik De Wachter recommended this program for people looking for effective self-help.
For reasons of privacy and professional secrecy, most examples are given anonymously. Some experiences can be found on this website in the form of an interview or video.

Scientific references

Our exceptional and sustainable results have been noted by a.o:
  • TEDx
  • The medical press such as Doctors' Newspaper and Specialists' Newspaper among others
  • World Psychiatry Congress 2017 in Berlin
  • 'European Brief Therapy Conference' in San Francisco, San Diego in Phoenix and in Anaheim (2018, 2016, 2015, 2014)
  • 'Congrès Français de psychiatrie 2017' in Lyon
  • 'Flemish Congress of Mental Health' in Belgium (2018, 2016, 2014)

Our online self-help program helps CEOs, celebrities and business leaders as much as students, professionals and other people like you and me to live again the way you want to live. The program was 100% developed by doctors whose calling is to help people live healthy and fulfilled lives.